Is it too much to ask parents to be responsible for their children? They made the choice, after all, to bring those kids into the world. They should, and in a sane world would, accept the responsibilities of parenthood.

But it seems some of the Millennial parents are becoming whiny because the Boomer grandparents aren't helping them raise their kids, instead deciding to pursue an actual retirement.

Some millennial parents say they feel "abandoned" by their baby boomer parents, who've chosen to travel in their retirement, rather than stay home and help raise their grandchildren, Business Insider found.

Growing up, Kristjana Hillberg remembers being regularly babysat by her grandmother when her parents traveled. But she often has to schedule visits with her parents or in-laws "months" ahead of time, she said.

Los Angeles-based psychologist and millennial mother Leslie Dobson explained many of her millennial clients develop resentment toward their parents because they feel like their parents have "chosen their life over meeting their grandchildren and building these relationships."

As far as the "...chosen their life over meeting their grandchildren," poppycock; speaking as a Boomer grandfather with Millennial kids, I'll wager that almost none of the Boomer grandparents have opted out of meeting their grandchildren; that's just hyperbolic bull dung. And in this case, at least, the Boomer parents of Leslie Dobson disagree with her characterization.

Dobson said she and her sisters were initially put off by their 71-year-old father's decision to move to a luxury resort in Mexico. While they've come around to understand the decision, Dobson said they had hoped their father would be more available to help raise their kids. 

Ted Dobson didn't seem to agree with his daughter's assessment of his life choices. The father told Business Insider that he still makes an effort to see his grandkids, but sometimes they are too busy to fit him into their schedules. He also suggested those in the younger generation live a more comfortable life than he did at the same age.

"They've all got nannies. We didn't have a damn nanny. They drive expensive SUVs. I drove a fricking minivan," he said. "I haven't spent a nickel less on my kids. I just spent some on me," he explained.

Grandparents, yes, can be a huge influence in a young life. Mine certainly were. I had one Grandma who was a tough-as-nails farm wife who raised and fed six kids during the Depression and watched two sons march off to service in World War II. I had one Grandpa who was a farmer and carpenter all his life and who taught me much about fishing, rural life, and who provided endless tidbits of earthy wisdom; my other Grandpa was a Ford mechanic and was inspirational in his uncanny ability to fix almost anything that could be broken. (My paternal grandmother died in 1945, so I sadly never knew her.) Grandparents should be involved in a child's life, and the children should look forward to the moment when Grandma and Grandpa appear at the door.

But, as my father told me when I became a grandfather for the first time, "Remember, you're not the parent."

Indeed. These Boomers are not the parents. They are the grandparents, and while they can be a big part of a child's life (and should be), they are not the ones with authority over and responsibility for their grandchildren. The parents are, as parents have always been, responsible.

Of course, every generation complains about the younger ones that follow. I imagine, thousands upon thousands of years ago, two grizzled old guys sitting at a fire were complaining about something very similar: "Grug, me tell you, kids, now not know what tough life is. Back in day, we walked many miles uphill both ways to find shiny rock for spear point. Kids now want shiny rock given them for nothing, not want walk."

Nobody - certainly nobody who was interviewed in the story discussed above - should want to exclude grandparents from the lives of their grandchildren. That's not what this is about. One of the few downsides of my wife and I living in Alaska, after all, is that we are so far from our grandchildren, but all four of our daughters have assured us that they see how happy and content we are here and share our joy in living the life we long dreamed of. But it's the expectation of support here that's rather galling. Again, I'll speak as one of those Boomer grandparents: We love our grandchildren, we spend time with them whenever possible; we are an influence in their lives and will continue being so. But we have raised our children, and now those children (well, two of them) are parents, and when you're a parent, you parent. You should depend on no one but yourself.

It's called accepting responsibility for your actions.