There's been a major cultural shift in our country, and I'm happy to say it's been for the better. Donald Trump's election was a clear signal that we were done with leftist control of our government, and there have been signs, as of late, that we've been done with what we've been calling "woke culture" in other parts of our society as well.
However, despite all these major shifts in various aspects of our society, there still seems to be an area of concern that we should absolutely begin trying to address, and that's the relationship between men and women. It's my honest opinion that the gulf between the sexes has grown so wide that relationships are either out of the question for some or have highly unrealistic expectations for others.
Both sides of this equation need to make some changes to get the math right, and I don't think they're impossible to achieve.
Let's start with the men.
I think too many men have accepted the path of least resistance when it comes to dating and relationships. With sex so easily obtained nowadays, in one form or another, the woman who truly is worth wooing and developing a relationship with gets overlooked. The promise of sex overrides too many male brains, and we accept a woman we shouldn't. Sometimes the women we accept aren't even women; they're AI programs who act like women with few inhibitions and barriers. Men fool themselves into thinking this will patch the hole. It doesn't. It will only make things worse.
I realize this is easier said than done. Male loneliness is an epidemic, and sometimes the feeling of being in a full-blown relationship with someone you shouldn't be with is far easier than feeling alone and rejected. Men tell themselves little white lies about the woman they're dating to avoid having to face the brutal reality that she's just not wife material, and those harmless white lies can develop into horrifically destructive consequences. Divorce is just the tip of the iceberg. Children being taken away, monetary issues, and missed opportunities will plague you the rest of your life.
Moreover, men need to stop buying into the lie that the modern woman is the only kind of woman there is. Yes, modernity has infected a great deal of the female population in the Western world, but this doesn't make finding one with traditional values and one who understands her nature as a woman impossible. There are women out there worth fighting for.
But here's the kicker. These women are worth more than gold and gems, which means you have to be someone worthy to have her. This means becoming more than you are. It's your job to succeed, grow, and provide. That is the role nature intended for you. If you spend the vast majority of your time goofing off and doing things that ultimately accomplish nothing but your own satisfaction, then you shouldn't be surprised when a woman who's worth it decides you're not.
This woman wants to be provided for, protected, and wants to grow a family. If you can't support those things, then she's forced to look elsewhere, and you can't get mad at her for it.
To be clear, this woman will love you dearly. She will take the resources you provide and transform them into a home of warmth, love, and children. She's not selfish, not unappreciative, and not demanding. This woman will be your biggest cheerleader, as she should be. You're working hard for her, and she's working hard for you. It's a team game.
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For women, I think a large part of the issue is almost the opposite. They've been "empowered" to seek out self-reliance and are practically pushed into the corporate world by modern society. They have easier times getting college degrees, getting jobs, and having something like a moral authority in the workplace. They've been told by authority figures, cultural figures, professors, and even family members that getting out there and obtaining financial independence is the path to true happiness.
For a while, this happiness in independence seems almost impossible to deny. In college, there's a huge focus on getting good grades so you can graduate and get a great job with great pay. However, due to the focus on career, the dating life begins to suffer. Modern society tells women it's not their fault that men are so intimidated by them. They're just lackluster and can't keep up with women.
As they become more successful in their careers, hypergamy kicks in, and their standards for men go up, particularly in how much they make, which I always found interesting. Modern society doesn't seem to have a response to the fact that women still seek men who can provide for them, even when they're providing for themselves.
This limits women's dating pool significantly, as men who make a lot of money constitute a much smaller percentage of the male population, meaning women are now attempting to attract men alongside every other woman, including those who don't make a lot of money at all. This is often confusing to women who are career-oriented, because they've been told all their lives that their career success is one of their best qualities, but men don't see things like that as marriage material. We'll make a home with the waitress we met at the diner that we felt a connection to, or the girl with no job who volunteers at the church.
This results in a lot of bitter, rejected, dejected, and shocked women who watch as their biological clock runs down the older they get. By the time they're in their mid-30s, they're borderline desperate but oddly, angrier at men than they've ever been, as if their loneliness were men's fault. They've been told all their lives that men were the enemy, and are shocked to learn that they have no love interests among them.
It's my opinion that women have been taught disrespect towards men is an acceptable norm, and that self-sufficiency is necessary for stability. This is a bold-faced lie. Your career means little to a man; it only means something to you and the business you work for. What matters to him is respect, and if you don't show it, then either brace yourself for a single life or a miserable relationship.
Respecting men for who they are and what they offer is, I think, step one in the repairing of relationships between men and women. Society has demeaned them, laughed at their pain, and shrugged at their suicides. They spend a lot of time being treated as expendable, and I think one of the islands of respect they had was their wives. If women can ditch the modern urging to treat men like garbage or look at them as expendable as society does, then I think we'll start to see a real turning of the tide.
