President George H.W. Bush made no bones about not being a Donald Trump supporter during the election and won’t be at his inauguration, but not for reasons related to any enmity.

Since Trump’s win in November, the elder Bush has shown, as ever, how Americans should act when faced with defeat: with grace, dignity and a little bit of self-effacing humor.

His letter of regret to Donald Trump on missing his inauguration is a perfect example of that.

It reads:

Dear Donald

Barbara and I are so sorry we can’t be there for your Inauguration on January 20th. My doctor says if I sit outside in January, it likely will put me six feet under. Same with Barbara. So I guess we’re stuck in Texas.

But we will be with you and the country in spirit. I want you to know that I wish you the very best as you begin this incredible journey of leading our great country. If I can ever be of help, please let me know.