Saturday’s Women’s March was preceded by a number of #WhyIMarch posts, then a variety of conservative #NotMyMarch rebuttals, then #WhyIMarch sur-rebuttals. Many of them had bits of merit, while a few were almost completely laughable.

On both sides, women shared emotional, personal experiences. Some were filled with anger and blame, even from the conservative side. (Which is understandable, because blatant hypocrisy is difficult to watch.)

But both sides are missing some truths and glossing over bullet points that don’t go with their point of view.

We know the points that progressive feminists miss in their rants. Choice. Accountability. Responsibility. Opportunity. We know that they peddle half-truths and flat-out lies to rile up their followers, such as this one:

You still don’t have full rights over your own body. Men are still debating over your uterus. Over your prenatal care. Over your choices.

I’m sorry, men are not debating over MY uterus or MY choices. No one has ever had control over my uterus except me. No one has had control over my choices or my prenatal care.

Conservatives, while rightly pointing out facts about opportunity, consequences (and no, I am not referring to a baby as a consequence here), and the brutal oppression of females in other countries, generally don’t acknowledge that some gender issues do exist. We disagree with progressives on the best way to solve problems – and detest a “victim” mentality.

Circumstances were not always as favorable for women in the United States as they are today. It took over 40 years for the Nineteenth Amendment to be ratified, giving women the right to vote. It’s a right we’ve had for less than 100 years. We didn’t have independent economic or political rights.

Even as late as 1946, women who worked outside the home were expected to leave their jobs as soon as their pregnancy was visible. As my grandmother told me, “You just didn’t work up until your baby was born. You just didn’t. And you didn’t go back unless you were divorced or widowed.”

So, I have to agree with the same writer I quoted above, who admonished conservative women to thank and respect the women who stood up for our rights decades before we were born:

Say thank you to the women who refused to back down, to the women who fought tirelessly to give you a voice. Say thank you to the women who put their lives on hold, who –lucky for you — did not have “better things to do” than to march and protest and rally for your voice.

In modern-day America, women have as many opportunities to succeed as men do. On many college campuses female students outnumber male students. But there are two big issues that are still a problem for women in America, and conservatives should clearly, loudly acknowledge that they do exist even while probably disagreeing with progressives on the solution.

Sexual assault and rape are still issues. I personally believe steps backward have been taken in that area because of the actions of “feminists,” some of whom claim that any sex is rape, even within marriage, or because of the attitude of some women who decide that an ill-advised hookup is suddenly rape.

The progressive answers to this problem have included rape whistles, sexual consent apps and waivers, and a shaming of men for having biological urges.

Conservatives would agree that men should be raised knowing how to appropriately and respectfully interact with women sexually (and in general), and that certain behaviors are reprehensible and never, ever okay. But we’d probably add that women should also be taught how to keep themselves from becoming victims (always having one sober friend or not drinking excessively, self-defense training, etc.).

Aside from any “wage gap” discussion (which I’m not going to get into here), there are issues in the workplace, and I believe most of my conservative sisters would agree with me. As a recent study showed, in marriages where both husband and wife work outside the home, the wife still does most of the emotional work at home, working a “second shift.”

At the office, moms are still the parent called first when a child is sick. Generally, dads are not expected to leave work for family crises.

If mom takes a few years away from the corporate world to raise children, it is difficult for her to re-enter even at the same level she was at when she left. Running a household and managing multiple volunteer jobs at one time definitely takes an entire set of marketable skills, yet many companies won’t take that “work experience” into account when a woman returns to the workplace. And, women are still hesitant to let their bosses know if they’re pregnant because they’re afraid they’ll be overlooked for training or promotions during the pregnancy.

Progressives believe it’s then the government’s place to step in, but conservatives would like to see the free market solve the problem.

Sexual harassment at work is still an issue, even at “conservative” companies, as we’ve seen with suits against Fox News in the last year. As with the sexual assault and rape issue, when progressives demand “sensitivity training” and consider every glance from a man “harassment,” we take steps backward. When conservatives deny that the issue exists, it’s difficult for our position to be taken seriously.

Since Trump’s election, the division in this country has become even deeper. If there is any hope of healing that divide, there is at least one question we need to ask:

When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with a woman whose life isn’t pretty much like yours?

And that goes for both sides.