While on X, a video hit my feed that, despite having never seen it before, was one I'd seen a million times in theme.
A woman in her 30s confesses to her camera that she's sitting alone in her apartment on a Friday night, feeling incredibly lonely. She chokes back tears as she talks about everything she's doing in her life that's exciting. She's traveling to other countries, hiking the Pacific, going to Yosemite, and being "full of life."
The issue is that no matter what she's doing, she's doing it by herself, and the loneliness is killing her. She says life feels so meaningless when you have no one to share it with. What's interesting is that she mentions the pushback she gets from people about "finding meaning in yourself," which she calls "bulls**t."
One thing that I think she said that truly painted a good picture here is that the silence she's experiencing as she sits eating in her apartment alone is "deafening."
Again, different girl, same video I've seen more times than I can count at this point.
Essa ativista feminista de esquerda simplesmente sentou-se e chorou, falando sobre a solidão que sentia. Ela não tem namorado, marido ou filhos.
— Conservatism And Elegance 🇺🇲 (@ThayzzySmith) August 31, 2026
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I feel like two things can be true at the same time. Feminism truly lied to this girl, as it lied to many other girls who grew up to become career-first women who thought they should push back romance and family for a time, or worse, didn't want romance and family at all.
But also that this isn't a phenomenon relegated to women. Growing up, I was fed the same drivel. That I shouldn't worry about a family till my mid-30s and focus on my career first. For a man, this is definitely a lot less consequential than it is for women, but I do want to point out that it caused a lot of people my age to take relationships a lot less seriously.
In fact, I think hook-up culture became way more prevalent as a result, as the natural drive to pair was there, but the societal sneering at marriage in your early 20s overrode the best outcome for that. I also have a theory that this became a lot of the basis for the ever-widening divide between men and women. The more meaningless sex was had, the less value we began to see in each other, and the more we took it more and more personally to have that lack of value thrust on us as individuals.
The video above also throws in some commentary after the video is done. The commenter talks about how Charlie Kirk warned about this very thing, and how it was ripping us apart as both people and as a society.
Charlie made it clear on multiple occasions that dating shouldn't be a hobby. It's very serious business and should be treated as the avenue to marriage. This means not treating it as a fun thing to do or something that you just do to get sexual gratification. I'll add that it shouldn't be treated as a way to fill in the silence. Marriage is the ultimate goal of dating.
Looking around at our society, I see many issues that spawn directly from the bad advice we were given when we were young. We have a population falling drastically due to a lack of children. Importing from other countries is happening all across the West in order to fill gaps, and while there are other factors for that happening, that's definitely one issue.
Also, American culture is beginning to slip into the shadows as cultures that do continue to have children become more and more influential just due to their cultural populations continuing to grow.
And, of course, I'm seeing a ton of unhappy people, both men and women, who continue to distrust and resent one another as their experiences with the opposite sex go from bad to worse. Again, there are a myriad of factors for this. I've written on many of them, but I think one of the huge issues is the one Charlie kept trying to encourage us to do.
Stop delaying marriage. Date to marry. Do it soon. Don't listen to the people who tell you marriage is misery and slavery. The real misery comes from the solitude and ticking clock that gets louder and louder as you get older.
I think we have to rip up the "focus on your career" nonsense, and not just for women. It's left a clear wound in America.
