A lot is said about what a good father is. He's strong, present, tough but fair. All of these are good qualities to have, but one that is ignored in today's society, or denounced once identified, is one you don't often hear about.
Indifference to worldly pressures.
To illustrate what I mean, I'm going to refer back to a streamer I've written about on more than one occasion due to the ongoing controversy he's surrounded by.
Nick Kolcheff, more popularly known as "Nickmercs," is a video game streamer with millions of followers. At one point, he became embroiled in internet drama when he made it clear that he believes the LGBT activist community needs to keep themselves away from children and out of the business of schools.
This set off a firestorm that had an untold amount of vitriol and hate thrown against him. Call of Duty/Activision punished him by stripping his likeness out of their game "Warzone." Twitch has banned him for using the term "tranny," and of course, there are the thousands and thousands of hateful messages he receives for his stance.
Yet, despite all this, Kolcheff isn't budging.
As he recently revealed on a podcast interview, Kolcheff doesn't have his positions because he hates anyone. In fact, he pities people who are roped into the transgender lifestyle, which is obviously very damaging, especially to children. As such, as a father, he finds himself rejecting this kind of thinking.
Watch the clip below, and you'll see that quality of indifference to the worldly pressures in his speech. Not anger, not hate, not spite, but something else entirely.
This is fantastic.
— Brandon Morse (@TheBrandonMorse) September 10, 2024
At the end of the day, the demand to validate lifestyles of others is going to fall flat on the ears of a father that loves his children, because it's a father's job to stand between his children and danger. Rage and cancel all you want, but a good father… https://t.co/m7JXot7L8x
This indifference to the world's demands is fueled entirely by his love for his child.
This quality is often the most frustrating thing to the world. Fathers are belittled, disregarded, called "toxic," and hated for what I believe is this often unspoken quality.
Getting to the child is very difficult with a father standing in the way saying "no."
If they can't get to the child, they'll go after the father. They'll try to shame him, pressure him, threaten him, and make him into a pariah. Yet it's the father's duty to stay strong, shrug, and not budge. It's his job to be indifferent to the demands made upon him and his child. His job isn't just to protect the home physically, it's to protect the home's heart as well.
Oftentimes, the world will try to get around the father by going through mother. They'll assault her with all sorts of things that are disguised as health, love, support, and care, but are oftentimes just agenda items for corporations, politicians, and activists. They'll tell her that the latest and greatest method of parenting is the only way to raise a child and not doing so will hurt or damage the child. They'll tell her that only certain programs should be watched to help your baby grow up smart and healthy. These things will often be accompanied by guilt and social pressure.
It can be overwhelming, but sometimes the father must stand up amid all that and say "no, not in my house." He has to reject the pressure on behalf of his family and take on the responsibility of being that wall. You'll often hear this referred to as despotism in the home, but really, it's a father having a calming influence in the lives of his family members, keeping them from sinking into a mire of confusion and harm.
Fathers are built for the fight, but oftentimes the fight isn't physical or forceful. It's calm, quiet, and immovable. It's shrugging at an angry and demanding world, and softly telling it to move on.
Because that's what fathers are built to do. They hold the fort. Their defend the bridge. They protect the home.
