Unless it is used as a form of mockery, ranking on my top five most hated terms list is the obnoxious word “privilege,” whether it’s so-called “white privilege” or “male privilege” or what have you.
So often we’ve seen accusations of “privilege” thrown around by woke leftists as another way to shut down debate. You’re “privileged,” they say, so you have no idea what someone who doesn’t look like you has gone through in life, can’t identify in any way with their experiences.
It’s an automatic judgment based on looks, something the hypocritical left used to say we should never do to others in the name of peace, love, and harmony, and all that.
While it’s true that there are certain things some go through that others will never understand (for example, a man will never understand what it’s like to be pregnant), there isn’t a person on this planet who hasn’t had their ups and downs, and there are very few people out there who haven’t faced setbacks in the form of discrimination or dismissal or failure at some points in their lives.
In other words, most of our experiences both positive and negative are similar, whether the woke left wants to admit it or not.
This brings me to the story of reality TV star Kaitlyn Bristowe, a former “Bachelor” contestant and someone who also had her own “Bachelorette” show not long after that. Ms. Bristowe, who is engaged to former Bachelorette contestant Jason Tartick, took to Instagram recently in tears because she felt lonely and wanted her followers to help lift her up:
The “Bachelorette” co-host posted video of herself crying through a “lonely” moment over the weekend — saying her show of emotion came about after speaking to her dad in Canada while her fiancé was out of town.
“It’s so hard sometimes being away, like, I mean I haven’t been back to Canada in two years,” the native Canadian shared on her Instagram Story. “I was FaceTiming my dad today, and I’m just feeling so lonely.”
“I was supposed to be there [with her fiance on vacation] and I couldn’t cause of work stuff,” she explained, “and I’m just missing them and I miss the dogs and I’m just having a moment and, uh, I need a show to cheer me up.”
After asking her followers for movie/TV show recommendations, Bristowe checked her DMs to find a mixture of positive and negative responses, with some of them snarking about how she was supposedly having “privilege problems“:
“I mean, I shouldn’t have even asked for movie recommendations because then that forces me to go into my DMs, and then I see things like people saying ‘have some dignity,’ ‘pull it together,’ ‘stop crying,’ ‘privileged problems lol,’” she said. “I’m like, ‘Oh, yeah, I forgot. That’s what I got in my DMs.’”
In her earlier post, Bristowe shared that it’s hard for her to open up about her problems because fans come at her for anything.
Imagine being one of the people who told a crying woman to get a grip and accused her of being privileged enough that she shouldn’t be in tears. Total idiots, but unfortunately pretty typical of the keyboard warriors on social media who have no life but who get off on judging the lives of others.
But what Bristowe experienced in her cry for help brings up a larger point about how most accusations of “privilege” are BS. It doesn’t matter how much “privilege” you have, it’s not going to buy you happiness and contentment in times of loneliness and isolation, and never will. It also does not guarantee success, contra to popular belief. It also does not insulate you from social rejection.
As I’ve noted before, we average Joes and Janes sometimes make the mistake of looking at famous/rich people in the abstract, because most average folks can’t relate to someone with fame and money who seemingly wants for nothing.
But sometimes we forget that celebrities are human beings who suffer from some of the same types of highs and lows and hardships as the rest of us. We don’t like being judged for ours but don’t seem to mind judging celebrities over theirs.
We as a society tell people who are struggling that they need to “reach out” for support, and yet when famous people like Bristowe do just that, they oftentimes get ridiculed by people telling them they shouldn’t have anything to worry about because they’ve got fame and fortune.
I realize social media being the bowl of dumb that it is that maybe it’s a good idea to limit your time on it when you’re down and out, but when you hit low points sometimes you reach out to who and what feels comfortable to you, and it’d be nice instead of piling on with the harsh judgments that more people stopped being jerks and started being more understanding and sympathetic, because when it comes down to it we’re all more alike than different whether we’ve been deemed as “privileged” or not.