On Friday, I wrote a column for my VIP subs that caused some controversy and a little bit of confusion. Reading the comments prompted me to want to expand on the ideas I put forward in the article, which you can read by clicking the link below.
READ: Evil Is Real
In it, I began the article by talking about a video I'd seen going around social media that showed a man confronting a woman he was on the side of for not calling women who engaged in pornography and OnlyFans content "disgusting," as she was seemingly afraid to go that far.
Ultimately, the man was right. A woman who is engaging in pornography is disgusting. I wouldn't date a woman who does porn or displays her body to other men for money because I would find it gross that a bunch of other men had access to my wife's most intimate parts of herself. It's a pox on her virtue and value as a partner because she's clearly not just your partner. It's gross.
Yet the woman who was on his side of the argument couldn't bring herself to say that. She didn't want to go that far. It's like she was afraid of stating the obvious for fear of something.
People began to protest my agreement with the man that these women were disgusting, with the majority of opinions saying that we should hate the sin and not the sinner.
I agree.
But I think we need to delve a little deeper into this concept and understand something about what we are before and after we're saved and cleansed. To highlight this, I want to talk about a woman named Nala.
If you're on X or TikTok, you probably saw this woman before. She was one of the most far-gone women I've ever seen. She bragged about having sex constantly, openly loved cheating and getting married men to cheat with her, and was very, very proud of her life as a modern whore.
Her appearance on the "Whatever Podcast" was one of the most viral moments the podcast had ever had, because Nala was so intense and extreme in her embrace of the lifestyle that it shocked even today's sexually desensitized people.
You can watch the video yourself and see just how bad Nala was.
This Nala can easily be described as a gross person. She is, at this moment, a disgusting woman. This Nala happily wrecked homes, encouraged lots of casual sex, and displayed her body to anyone and everyone for a buck. She engaged in quite a bit of evil.
But while I thought she was a disgusting person, I didn't hate her, I hated what she was doing. I thought she was very, very lost, and she needed to be found by the only man who could save her at this point, Jesus Christ.
C.S. Lewis wrote in "The Great Divorce" that those who are the most far-gone are closer to salvation than you might think. Sure enough, Nala was found by Christ, and now she's a saved woman turning her life around.
Do I consider Nala disgusting now? No. She's turned from that old life, repented, and is going through steps to make herself into a wholly different person who follows a moral path.
I don't exactly know what drove Nala into the path of Christ or what inspired her to be more of a moral person in general, but I can't help but think that it started with her becoming a viral sensation who suddenly saw herself when the lights came on and she was exposed to the world. People were clearly grossed out. They made that very clear to her.
Perhaps it was that, and perhaps it was not, but what is clear is that Nala suddenly realized that she was, indeed, disgusting and needed to change.
In my opinion, there is value in calling someone's insanely grotesque lifestyle out as disgusting and gross. Sometimes, hearing that kind of truth wakes people up to it, especially in this day and age when calling a spade a spade is taboo and offensive.
But you can call a person disgusting for disgusting behavior and not hate them or wrongfully condemn them to hell. There is a difference between the two. That's not your job. It is your job, however, to recognize the truth when you see it.
And to be clear, this doesn't just apply to women in porn. There are plenty of vices that I would say aren't "disgusting," but they can lead to paths that make one disgusting. For instance, a man who indulges in a drink every once in a while isn't in any way disgusting, but a man who does nothing but drink to the detriment of himself and everyone around him is.
Being a disgusting person is a temporary state, though, and ends when one is cleaned. Until then, they live in that state.
