If you’re a 19-year-old kid looking forward to his first kiss with a woman he loves and cares about that’s admirable. Apparently, if you’re in the presence of Katy Perry, however, you don’t get the option to hold out. She’s going to be your first kiss whether you like it or not.
As you’ll see in the video below, Benjamin Glaze was about to try out for a spot to be the next American Idol. During the part of the tryout where the judges get to know the performer, Glaze mentioned that he had never kissed a girl before. The teen mentioned that the reason he’d never locked lips with anyone is because he was waiting for the right girl to come along.
This is extraordinary in the world of today’s first world, where holding out that long is looked at pretty negatively by mainstream standards. However, Perry demanded he come up and give her a kiss. Glaze agreed to give her a kiss on the cheek. After that, Perry insisted he try again, and when Glaze went in for the kiss, she turned her head at the last second, giving him a smooch on the lips.
Let’s get the obvious out of the way here. If Perry were a 33-year-old man, and Glaze a 19-year-old female, Perry would be hauled off the set and told never to return. Article on article would be written about Perry’s disgusting advancement on a pure, innocent girl, and taking something from her that she cherished. Hashtags would boot up, and the #MeToo movement would find new life.
But that won’t happen. Perry is a woman, and taking away something a boy cherished was apparently something the network thought to celebrate. Her co-hosts cheered, and the moment was even put up on YouTube — a massive supporter of social justice causes — by the American Idol YouTube account.
And apparently, Glaze is none too happy about the fact that his first kiss was taken from him.
“I was a tad bit uncomfortable,” Glaze told the New York Times. “I wanted to save it for my first relationship,” he said. “I wanted it to be special.”
“Would I have done it if she said, ‘Would you kiss me?’ No, I would have said no,” he said. “I know a lot of guys would be like, ‘Heck yeah!’ But for me, I was raised in a conservative family and I was uncomfortable immediately. I wanted my first kiss to be special.”
This entire scene irks me, because there are several things here that strike me as wrong.
The obvious double-standard of sexual harassment aside, Perry thought she was entitled to his first kiss. Something he had said was special to him before she took it. She thought herself important enough to just steal it via trickery, then literally celebrate herself doing it afterward.
Then the move was celebrated, not just by Perry and her co-hosts, but by the network and the show who proudly display it on social media.
This kid just got a taste of Hollywood entitlement, not just in terms of ideas and things, but of his own body. I sincerely hope Perry apologizes to not only this kid, but for her part in contributing to an already massive problem Hollywood has when it comes to keeping parts of your body to yourself.
And then I hope people understand that if it’s not right for one group, it’s not right for the other.