That quote above is from C.S. Lewis's follow-up to his famed book "The Screwtape Letters" where the demon Screwtape is commenting on the lackluster dinner of adulterers he'd just feasted on. It's something that rings kind of true today. 

Sex used to be a foundational aspect of our society, and I mean that quite literally. As I wrote earlier Sunday, before the advent of hormonal birth control, women had to be far choosier about who they had sex with because sex was far riskier, and I don't mean with STDs, I mean because it could result in a child. As such, if you were going to have sex and risk having a baby, the man you had a baby with better be a provider and a good man, and women and their families would see to it that hoops were jumped through and rings were exchanged before sex was remotely acceptable. 

(READ: The Other Thing Hormonal Birth Control Did That Really Hurt Women Needs to Be Discussed)

But then a sexual revolution happened, birth control became widely available, and before you knew it, sex wasn't that big of a deal anymore. You could have sex every other day of the month and a fear of pregnancy would be the furthest thing from anyone's mind. 

You'd figure that would result in a lot more sex being had, but it's not. In fact, we're having less and less sex, and not just between single people. Married people aren't exactly getting it on as much either. 

Why? 

If you were to take a serious guess as to why, you'd probably be right. There are a ton of reasons why our society is having less sex and is going through what The Atlantic called a "sex recession." Relationships aren't as valued as they were 30 years ago, and sex isn't exactly a goal worth achieving. 

Let's start with the fact that we live in a "sex-positive" society. Now, don't let the phrase "sex-positive" fool you. It means that women are allowed to express themselves sexually, but it doesn't mean actual sex. "Sex positivity" usually means dressing up like a whore, starting an OnlyFans, and talking about sexual things in the open. However, the actual sex aspect gets muddy. 

Men are told that this sex positivity is not for them, it's for the individual woman expressing that positivity. If men approach sex-positive women they're jeered at, mocked, scolded, and told they're toxic by these same women sending these signals. They tell these men they aren't worth bothering with or, get into shallow relationships with them that really don't mean anything past the sexual aspect. In fact, many of these modern women want companionship, but not a relationship. 

Confused? Yeah, I'm just getting started. 

Focus has been greatly diverted from the idea of the nuclear family being the foundation of society and now, the foundation of society is a solid office job at a corporation where big money is made, and this applies to both men and women. This means that men and women are competing for the same job, and in our current socio-political atmosphere, the likelihood of women getting that job is very high. This means more and more women are getting higher-paying jobs. 

Now despite all the social engineering society has tried to do with society, it can't overcome nature. Women want to be taken care of. They want a provider...and when a young woman is capable of providing for herself, she seeks a man who can provide for her even more than she's providing for herself. This forces her to compete for men making insane salaries that most people in the world just aren't making...and against every other woman in the world. 

Men aren't focused on how much a woman makes or how successful she is. We'll make a home with the waitress at our favorite burger joint if we feel a romantic connection with her. 

This leaves the successful woman with very few sexual options as she's more than likely going to reject the vast amount of men who make less money than her. With this happening more and more all the time, less and less sex is naturally happening. 

I'm not done either. Let's talk about how technology is screwing up the program.

As the sexual atmosphere has become a minefield thanks to modern feminism and men watching their peers be destroyed just off a mere accusation that they did something wrong, men are backing away from the dating scene. Marriages and relationships are down. 

(READ: Women Want to Know Why Men Don't Want to Marry Anymore...Allow Me)

But regardless, sex is everywhere...just not in men's bedrooms. Well, at least not in a physical sense. 

Pornography is more available today than it has ever been. Men can start parasocial relationships with women on OnlyFans. Hell, there are even AI companions now that will participate in sexual role-play with you through your phone. 

Men are too afraid to venture out and try to find a woman. It's too difficult, and dangerous, and thanks to the divorce rates of previous generations as well as horror stories of the fallout of failed marriages, a useless waste of time. 

Why risk it when there are far safer ways to fulfill that desire or even distract from it? Delve into a hobby, play a video game, or sink yourself further into your career. Whatever it takes to not wind up in the storm that is the Western dating scene. 

Sex can still happen but when it does, it's not the life-changing thing it's meant to be. 

We are now living in the world Screwtape described. 

Here's the thing. Sex is a great thing. In fact, it's one of the best things ever. Under the correct circumstances, it's an incredible experience that, when it's really good, will seer itself into your memory. It's literally the gateway to life itself. Men and women should be having sex with each other way more than we are. 

But to do that we need to return it back to the pedestal it was on. We need to treat it with the care and respect it deserves. We're currently taking a priceless gift and treating it like a Chuck E. Cheese ticket prize. 

However, I'll be honest, I don't know how to begin untangling the Gordian Knot around the modern sex atmosphere. I can pinpoint the problems, but getting society to turn away from its current views on the sexual landscape, men, women, relationships, and careers on top of all the temptations, both monetary and entertaining, is a lot. A drastic cultural revolution will have to take place but I don't see it happening anytime soon.