Can You Choose Who You Love?

Ok, so I’ve had a lot of debate and talk over a particular topic; can you choose who you love?  This argument is used tremendously by the homosexual community to make a stand for gay marriage.  Let’s take this idea and remove the concept of homosexuality from the equation.  We can do this because of the claim that “love is love and all love is equal”.  If we cannot take the concept of “you can’t choose who you love” to the heterosexual world, then we would in effect be saying that homosexual love is inferior to heterosexual love because if one has the ability to choose and the other does not, then the ability to choose would be a higher quality.  Alright, so now lets take this concept and I will give you a scenario and through this scenario I am confident you will come to the conclusion that you can indeed choose who you love.

A man and a woman have been married for 15 years.  They have 2 children ages 13 and 9.  Now, while this man is at the office he is introduced to a new coworker.  A young beautiful girl who he has to train to take his position before he can move up in the company.  Now they are spending lots of time which quickly goes from the casual work environment to a more romantic one.  Now we introduce the concept that “you cannot choose who you love”.  This man decides to get a divorce and leave his wife to have a new relationship with this woman he has been working with.  Now you cannot blame him, or her for that matter, because he cannot choose who he loves.  His wife shouldn’t be able to hold him accountable either because he did not have a choice in the matter.  The new girl simply took his love and everyone moves on happily ever after.

Now I bet that sounds pretty ridiculous doesn’t it!  Of course what he did was wrong and I don’t think there is anybody alive who could argue with that.  Here is the bottom line, you can choose who you love.  If you couldn’t choose who you love, you couldn’t choose who you stay in love with meaning the guy in the story has no accountability for his actions.  He couldn’t be held responsible, nor anyone else for that matter for what occurred.  Everyone has the ability to choose who they love and if you don’t have the ability to choose who you love, then you don’t know what love truly is.  Which is better, the person who wakes up next to someone for 15 years and feels like he can’t choose to love that person, or the one who wakes up next to someone for life because they choose never to lay down next to anyone else.

I want to consider one other point now.  Why is it a big deal that the homosexual community wants to make you think that they cannot chose who they love?  Because if they don’t have a choice, then they can’t really be denied rights.  The choice makes the difference.  If being gay is a choice and some homosexuals declare, then they have no special claim to anything.  There would be no cause to change laws or rules because they choose to not take part in the lifestyle in which the laws were designed to preserve.  If it is a choice, then they “choose” to be gay and forfeit the right to be married.  However, if they cannot chose as other homosexuals claim, then the argument becomes a bit more complicated.  Then you can’t really deny them the same privileges that the heterosexual community enjoys.  If they truly had no choice, then they can make a strong argument that it is a personal liberty case and that they are being denied privileges based on who they are, not the choices they made.

The truth is, that homosexual marriages are typically not stable.  Heterosexual marriages aren’t that stable either because the idea of marriage has been corrupted.  It no longer stands for a lifelong commitment between you and another person and God.  Marriage is commonly seen nowadays as a tradition of claiming you will never leave that person.  However, with divorce rate as high as it is now, clearly people are no longer concerned with what marriage truly stands for.  As a newlywed myself, this is a tradition I intend to preserve the way it was meant to be.  I love my wife and I will always CHOOSE to love her and never abandon, betray, or deny her my love.