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If You Don't Want to Get Pregnant, Don't Have Sex

With teen pregnancy rates dropping all over the country, in Pueblo, Colorado, rates continue to rise. The Pueblo Chieftain lists three possible reasons in their opening paragraph.

When a survey team starts looking for the reasons so many teenage girls in Pueblo become mothers, the most likely reason will be that it’s a family tradition, a symptom of poverty and absent fathers.

Family tradition is the hardest thing to change. “Hey, my mother had me as a teen so I’ll be okay.” Except, these days it’s often the mother and grandmother. Add to that a culture that accepts and, dare I say it, expects that single teens will get pregnant and you have a serious problem that is difficult for young women to get out of.

“Wait a minute,” I hear you cry. “Expects single teens will get pregnant?” Aye. That’s the “symptom of poverty” the Chieftain mentions. When you have a community where the majority of mothers are of the unwed teen variety, there is an expectation in the community that unwed teens will become pregnant. It’s just like in communities where the majority of mothers are of the married (teen or otherwise) variety, there’s an expectation that women will get married first.

There’s a problem with the “symptom of poverty” theory. In short, they have their causation reversed. Unwed teen mothers tend to be poor mostly because they drop out of school to rear their children. If a young woman can get out of school without getting pregnant, she has a much better chance of going to college and getting a good job.

Before you scream about a lack of money, assuming her grades were reasonably good, there is enough financial aid available for her to go to college. It will probably be a smaller state college and not MIT or Harvard but she’ll be able to get the education she needs to get started.

There’s a plethora of documentation on the importance of having a father in the home so I won’t dwell on that much beyond this. A married couple provides an example for their children to emulate. As I said before, in communities where the majority of families consist of married couples, there is an expectation that the children will also get married.

This quote from later in the article is key though.

Aragon said there was another factor: Her dad was there and she grew up in a stable family.

“Men took responsibility and I don’t see that happening today.”

Wait, men need to take responsibility? What a concept! But it doesn’t go far enough. Women, especially, need to take responsibility for getting pregnant. Not to let men off the hook because, the last time I checked, it takes two to get pregnant, but the man doesn’t get stuck with the kid.

“See? That’s why we need cheep and accessible abortions,” the feminists will point out with exuberance. They’re wrong, despite their exuberance. What is needed is for young women to realize that having sex is what gets them pregnant. It’s not rocket science. If an unwed teen doesn’t want to get pregnant, she shouldn’t have sex. No birth control is perfect and women get pregnant even when using birth control. Except for that Mary chick in Bethlehem, no women has ever gotten pregnant by not having sex.

So, there’s the message that needs to taught. If you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t have sex. It doesn’t matter how much you like the guy, if you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t have sex.

(Originally posted at PerlStalker’s Ramblings)