Actresses these days haven’t given me much of a chance to cheer for them. Just when they begin to make common sense arguments about gender in society, they turn right back around and apologize for them.
The first case in point: Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting.
I was ready to make “The Big Bang Theory” star my new hero this past January. In an interview with Redbook magazine, she rejected the term “feminist” and dared to say she liked “serving” her husband.
“I cook for Ryan five nights a week: It makes me feel like a housewife; I love that. I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I like the idea of women taking care of their men. I’m so in control of my work that I like coming home and serving him. “My mom was like that, so I think it kind of rubbed off.”
Predictably, feminists were horribly offended that the actress would admit she enjoys cooking for her husband. Among other insults, they told Cuoco-Sweeting she was “selfish” and needed to “get educated.”
So, what did she do? Apologize.
“I apologize if anyone was offended. Anyone that truly knows me, knows my heart and knows what I meant.”
As for other female celebrities, they’re apparently branded as hateful when they make harmless jokes about women’s fashion. When a reporter for Extra asked “Hitch” star Eva Mendes if she ever wears sweatpants around boyfriend Ryan Gosling, she responded, ““You can’t do sweatpants… ladies, number one cause of divorce in America, sweatpants, no!”, both she and the reporter had a good laugh.
They were apparently the only ones. As soon as she made the comment, she received a barrage of social media backlash.
What did she do? Apologize – in a note to her favorite sweatpants.
One honorable mention. Last April, actress Kirsten Dunst defended traditional gender roles in the UK’s Harper’s Bazaar:
“And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work…”
Feminist critics called her “insufferable” and “dumb” for her supposedly outdated beliefs. While Dunst didn’t exactly say sorry for her honest words, she felt the need to “clarify” her statement and insist she was one of them.
“I was talking about my mother—obviously I’m a feminist,” she told Flaunt. “It’s ridiculous that anyone would think other of me.”
This is why Shailene Woodley is my new favorite person. Woodley, known for her starring roles in the “Divergent” series and “The Fault in Our Stars,” is the first actress I know in recent memory that has refused to succumb to feminist bullying. Here’s what she said last year when TIME asked her if she was a feminist.
“No because I love men, and I think the idea of ‘raise women to power, take the men away from the power’ is never going to work out because you need balance. With myself, I’m very in touch with my masculine side. And I’m 50 percent feminine and 50 percent masculine, same as I think a lot of us are. And I think that is important to note. And also I think that if men went down and women rose to power, that wouldn’t work either. We have to have a fine balance.”
“We should all be able to embrace one another regardless of our belief system and regardless of the labels that we have put upon ourselves,” she said.
Have I really found a Hollywood actress who appreciates the differences between men and women – and doesn’t apologize for them? So far, yes. Woodley is wise beyond her years when she rejects “feminist” as a label, for it does little more than create division.
I can’t stress enough how hypocritical it is for so-called feminists to throw insults at women who think differently from them. Isn’t speaking our own minds and claiming our independence a feminist mantra? Sadly, when a Hollywood starlet dares to disagree with the feminist majority, she is bullied to immediately withdraw her comments.
Woodley, however, is one actress who refuses to be thrown in a locker.
Leave it to a 23-year-old to truly get it. Please don’t disappoint me, Shailene.