I'm Finally Coming Out

After much deliberation, I’ve decided to come out with it.

I know this is something you, the readers, have been wondering about for a long while.

I’m a heterosexual.  I’m straight.

Phew, glad that’s out of the way.  It’s a stressful event, preparing to share your sexual orientation with the world.

I know, I know, I’m missing the press conference and hovering media presence demanding to know what motivated me to make such a bold step as announce my sexuality to the world.

Wait a second.  How could I forget?  Announcing that I’m straight doesn’t count as cause for celebration.  Admiration and celebrity only come if I announce that I’m gay, right?

That’s the ridiculous trend our society continue to advance.  From Michael Sam, the first openly gay NFL player, to Tim Cook, CEO of Apple and first openly gay Fortune 500 company CEO, and dozens of others, we have begun to glorify the act of “coming out” as gay as something totally separate and unequal from someone who is straight.  Equality, if truly sought, must stretch across the entire spectrum of circumstances, not begin after a majestic announcement that lifts the person above anyone of a different inclination.

Too many LGBT activists are not fighting for equal treatment.  They’re fighting for special treatment, even if that means forcing others to violate personal beliefs in order to appease their own.

In 2012, Jack Phillips, who owns Masterpiece Cakeshop in Colorado, refused to sell a wedding cake to a same-sex couple who came to his shop hoping to purchase one.  A devout Christian who sees no problem with his personal faith intermingling with his personal business, Phillips said:  “I’m a follower of Jesus Christ so you can say it’s a religious belief, but I believe that the Bible teaches that that’s not an OK thing.”  Earlier this year, the Colorado Civil Rights Commission determined that Phillips had no right to refuse service to the same-sex couple, essentially valuing their right to celebrate a gay marriage (despite the fact that it remains illegal in Colorado) over Phillips’s right to operate his business freely as he sees fit.  

I brought this case up in my “Issues in American Politics” class and was met by horrified disagreements when I suggested that the couple simply purchase their cake elsewhere.  Is it really such an outrageous suggestion?  Phillips is able to remain true to his beliefs while operating his business, and the couple is free to purchase a cake from someone who supports their lifestyle decisions.  The beauty of capitalism is the many options you have for any service you seek; if you disagree with the owner of one store on a given issue, simply go elsewhere.  If Jack Phillips is an openly Christian cakeshop owner, odds are he’s not going to be too keen on the idea of supplying a cake to a same-sex couple.  Let him have his beliefs, and you have yours.  If Phillips wouldn’t make their cake, the couple had every right to take their business to someone who would.  Instead of coexisting with opposing beliefs, they sought special treatment by forcing him to forego his opinions to accommodate theirs.  Somehow, they felt that elevating their rights to a position above his was acceptable because of their “oppressed minority/victimhood” status.

You are not a victim if someone happens to oppose your lifestyle choices.  My right to freedom of religion doesn’t stop at your hurt feelings.  Frankly, I’m not even sure why this couple was so eager to give business to a man whose beliefs they consider so discriminatory.  

Crying “discrimination” whenever someone disagrees with you isn’t a convincing argument, but it’s one that too many have played along with.  However, if we’re going to talk about discrimination, we have to talk about both sides.  Discrimination against straight people in the name of “equality” or something is an issue that deserves to be addressed.

Reaching Out MBA is a group that hosts a yearly conference and job fair for gay and transgender students seeking an MBA.  Straight students have also attended the event in the past, and with 10% of last year’s 1,100 attendees identifying as straight, the event organizers have had enough.  Before gaining admission to this year’s conference, would-be attendees were required to be nominated by their campus LGBT group or submit an essay detailing why they wished to attend the event.  Why?  So organizers could vet potential attendees and limit them to only gay and transgender students.

Granted, a job fair for LGBT students seems to be of little use to straight students, but the event was meant to be an open one, and the justification for exclusion of straight students was their “offensive” presence as felt by the LGBT students in attendance.  Basically, event organizers believe gay and transgender students have weaker spines than do straight students, and feel compelled to shield the former from the vicious presence of their straight counterparts.

There’s nothing wrong with a job fair targeting a certain demographic.  There is something wrong with excluding from an open event those who don’t fit the model being encouraged.  As reported by Campus Reform, the Executive Director of the Career Management Center at William & Mary’s Business School disagrees with the exclusion of straight students from the event:  “There are recruiters [at the job fair] who are happy to talk with anyone that’s talented.  The idea of those groups is to ensure inclusiveness, not to say, ‘we only want LGBT people.'”

Encouraging potential employers to take sexual orientation into consideration during the hiring process for a job in the business world?  Yeah, totally not seeking special treatment.

The adamant exclusion of straight students begs the question:  when is discrimination in the name of “equality” acceptable?  Is it unacceptable when gays are the subjects of exclusion but acceptable when straights are being excluded?

If you want equality, fight for it.  Don’t look for special treatment to help you get ahead.  Equality would mean that gays are measured by the same standards held for straights.  Don’t make sexual orientation an issue where it doesn’t need to be one.  Just like you wouldn’t expect an atheist club to bend their beliefs to allow a Christian to become club president, you shouldn’t expect a Christian business owner to bend his beliefs and allow them to be violated.  You are more than your sexual orientation, and continuing to define by gay or straight as if it makes a significant difference only increases the cries for special treatment for gays.  If they are just as much people as straights are, they don’t need special treatment.  If it’s equal treatment that you really want, stop denying others their rights in order to advance your own.

The next time you see a coronation announcement for someone coming out as gay, view it as what it is:  an attempt to subtly make you believe that person is more important than you are.  Sorry, but equal treatment means you react to their announcement just like you would react to one of the opposite orientation.  Let’s judge people based on the content of their character, not based on who they go to bed with.