Thoughts on Gay Marriage

Gay marriage has been the hot topic for the last few days, following the completion of President Obama’s “evolving” views on the issue.  While his announcement of support for gay marriage came as a surprise to no one, it has still served to spark a media uproar concerning the public’s views on it.  31 states have already been given the opportunity to legalize gay marriage– and 31 states have said no thank-you.  I’m approaching this issue carefully; however, I’m using only Scripture to give you my opinion on it.

The Bible clearly states its definition of marriage in many places, one of which is Ephesians 5:25-32:

“(v. 25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (v. 26) That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, (v. 27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  (v. 28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.  He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  (v.29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  (v. 30) For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.  (v. 31) ‘For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.’  (v. 32) This is a great mystery:  but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”

Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God.  Marriage is holy matrimony in the sight of God.  It is a picture of the way Christ loves His church.  Just as Christ loves the church and would (did) give Himself for it, a husband ought to love his wife in the same way.  Marriage in its intended form is a picture here on earth of the way God loves us– wholly and completely, because He created us and desires a relationship with us.  Marriage is a privilege given by God, not the government.  Therefore, the government really should have no say in the issue of marriage.

Let me make something else clear:  While in the Bible God clearly gives the definition of marriage, He also gives us another commandment in Matthew 22:35-40:

“Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law?  Jesus said unto him, ‘Thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.’  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.’  On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

Christ commands us to love everyone around us.  He doesn’t say “Thou shalt love thy neighbour…as long as they aren’t gay.”  He says to love everyone.  As humans, we cannot perfectly love someone, nor can we perfectly hate someone (without malice).  However, God is perfectly able to love a person completely, yet at the same time detest the sin they are committing.  As we are called to be more like Christ, we strive to love all people regardless of their sins– because we, too, are imperfect sinners, and no sin is “worse” than another.  In James 2:10 He states that, “For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.”  That is not saying that some sins do not have worse consequences than others, simply that you are just as much a sinner for stealing a pack of gum as a murderer is for his actions.  All have sinned.  Therefore, we are called to love those who are gay.  Love the people– but hate the sin.  Again, this does not mean you degrade them every time you see them.  It simply means that you love the person but do not condone their actions– it is not necessarily your right to “put them in line.”  In many cases, people you know could say the same of you and me– they love us, but do not love the wrong in our lives.  Makes sense, right?

Should gay marriages be legal?  Well, according to the Bible, no.  Marriage is defined in the Bible as a sacred union, before God, of a man and a woman.  Gay marriage is not okay with God because of this. The legality of gay marriage is the main controversy surrounding this issue, and the answer can be clearly found.

Those are my thoughts (with lots of Scriptural backup).  Why, though, is the media siding with the President so strongly on this issue while the public has clearly voiced their opinion?  As I said before, 31 states have made gay marriage illegal.  How could announcing his support for gay marriage aid President Obama’s re-election hopes?  I don’t think it can.  Quite frankly, he may have just “evolved himself into a one-term President.”  Our country is making clear that our definition of marriage does not need to change.  Why is our President trying to force us to?  I’ll conclude with a quote from Reverend Billy Graham regarding North Carolina’s gay marriage bill (stated before the vote on Tuesday):  “At 93, I never thought we would have to debate the definition of marriage.”