When you come to my house, take off your shoes.


This past summer I took my 12-year-old daughter to England. We feasted our eyes on the typical first-time-visitor attractions: Big Ben, Tower of London, Stonehenge, Windsor Castle, blah, blah, blah. The one thing that left an indelible impression on my mind, however, is something quite mundane: Muslim women cloaked from head-to-toe in black sheets a la Halloween ghost.

On the streets of London, Muslim men, as their wives follow a step or two behind, brush past women wearing miniskirts (a trend that started in England, I learned) and tank tops. I wondered, aren’t these men afraid that their wives might be infected, through those little eye-hole slits, by Western infidels and their corrupt culture?

When I told my husband the outrage I felt for these women, he said that it was a part of their religion and culture, and for me not to be bothered by it. Come again? So religion and culture are excuses for polygamy? What about clitoridectomy? And while we’re at it, why not bring back feet binding and human sacrifice?

If these women enjoy going out in public wearing black sheets (abayat, or whatver), then yes, knock themselves out–as long as it is truly their choice. I’m willing to put serious money down that they wouldn’t mind wearing less cumbersome garb every once in a while, perhaps when it’s 90 degrees out?

Here’s a thought: ”when in Rome do as the Romans do.” Why immigrate to the West, then desperately cling to everything from home? Wouldn’t it be better to just stay at home where “strange” traditions are the norm? Most treacherous of all are those who not only cling to their own ways, denounce the ways of their new home, and force those in their host country to adapt to them instead of the other way around.

When you come to my house, and you see that I’m not wearing any shoes (for me, not as much cultural as it is anal–shoes track in dirt), that would be a pretty good indicator that you should take your shoes off, too.



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Is your point here

GremlinJones (Diary) Monday, November 2nd at 5:54PM EST (link)

that you object to religion “forcing” women to dress in a way that they might not otherwise choose? Or is it that these women should dress in a Western style when they are traveling in the “West”?

Because if it’s #1, I think we agree 100%. I mean, the puritans took biblical concepts and forced their women to cover every patch of skin save their faces in order to not incite the lust of men. I doubt those puritans living in the South very much appreciated being covered in head to toe because men supposedly couldn’t control themselves.

And if it’s #2, I think we disagree. I’m not overly religious, but if a certain garment in my eyes showed respect to God and because I was traveling I was forced to take it off because most people in that culture didn’t share my religion, I would be pretty offended. Wouldn’t you? I suppose it’s your choice not to travel, but why force someone to do something that doesn’t affect you in the slightest?

Mostly #1

scone (Diary) Monday, November 2nd at 11:06PM EST (link)

but a little of #2 as well.

#1: We totally agree, so that’s a yay! What bothered me the most was that the Muslim men were dressed in short-sleeve shirts & jeans, while their wives were covered from head to toe. I fantasized about ripping the black veils off those women and hot-glueing it onto their husbands’ heads.

If the entire family is dressed a certain way to honor their culture and/or religion, e.g. the Amish or Orthodoxed Jews, than those around them need to be respectful.

I can’t think of any other religion or culture that dictates a woman’s dress in such a manner, while the man is free to dress any way he pleases. The sari comes to mind, but saris are beautiful and vibrant and actually quite revealing.

#2 is a little tricky. These people immigrated to the West. I would think the reason is that they’re hoping to make a better life for themselves. Maybe not such a bad idea to adopt some of your new home’s customs, or at least be respectful of them. Hope I explained my reasoning for #2.