Standing in Awe of Great Men


This world features some truly inspiring people moving in circles where you would (and wouldn’t) expect them to be — folks who dedicate their lives to others, folks who give their lives for others, and folks who put their bodies through unimaginable levels of torment simply to help others in the smallest way, be it to raise a modest amount of cash to help research a fatal disease or, even seemingly smaller, to put a smile on a loved one’s face.

It’s impossible for most to fathom what these folks go through and why they’re so willing to push themselves so hard. Folks like Jim Oldfield, a sixty-year-old heart attack survivor and former smoker who competes in triathlon to raise funds for charitable community development, and a former Air Force colleague of mine (and current Navy SEAL) Dave Goggins, who started with Ironman and progressed to ultramarathons and cross-country bike races to raise cash for the Special Operations Warrior Foundation, an organization that provides for the children of SOF operators who lost their lives in combat, are individuals who possess a level of quality and toughness that most could never fathom, let alone dream of matching.

The most inspiring of all, though, is a man named Dick Hoyt. Rather than try to retell his story in my own words, an attempt which would fall far short of doing justice to Mr. Hoyt, I’ll just leave his story, as told by former Sports Illustrated writer Rick Reilly, below the fold.


Strongest Dad in the World

Rick Reilly
Sports Illustrated Issue date: June 20, 2005, p. 88

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he’s pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he’s not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars — all in the same day.

Dick’s also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much — except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

“He’ll be a vegetable the rest of his life,” Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. “Put him in an institution.”

But the Hoyts weren’t buying it. They noticed the way Rick’s eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. “No way,” Dick says he was told. “There’s nothing going on in his brain.”

“Tell him a joke,” Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? “Go Bruins!” And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, “Dad, I want to do that.”

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described “porker” who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. “Then it was me who was handicapped,” Dick says. “I was sore for two weeks.”

That day changed Rick’s life. “Dad,” he typed, “when we were running, it felt like I wasn’t disabled anymore!”

And that sentence changed Dick’s life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

“No way,” Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren’t quite a single runner, and they weren’t quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, “Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?”

How’s a guy who never learned to swim and hadn’t ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they’ve done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don’t you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you’d do on your own? “No way,” he says. Dick does it purely for “the awesome feeling” he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 — only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don’t keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

“No question about it,” Rick types. “My dad is the Father of the Century.”

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. “If you hadn’t been in such great shape,” one doctor told him, “you probably would’ve died 15 years ago.”

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other’s life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father’s Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

“The thing I’d most like,” Rick types, “is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once.”

What more is there to say?


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I dug it.

mbecker908 (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:14PM EST (link)

but not until after I stopped crying.

Thanks Jeff.

 

I know the Hoyts personally

kowalski (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:20PM EST (link)

They live in my home town, less than a half a mile from me, and I’ve been very proud to do some printing and design work for them during the past year. They are everything this article says and more. I’ve never met a harder working family who are more truly dedicated to what they’re doing as a cause, a life, a family and a team. They live modestly here in my little town in Massachusetts, and their Foundation is dedicated to helping disabled children and adults in all walks of life. You can visit their website at http://www.teamhoyt.com

This year, they received a FREDDIE International Health and Media Award for Public Service from the MultiMedia Foundation, and I produced the advertisement for the award book:

HOYTFOUNDATION_FREDDIE

There are very few people I’ve met in this life who impress me as much as the Hoyts do. They’re constantly on the go and they’re the epitome of sincerity and dedication. They’re also just nice people in addition to being good people, very down-to-Earth. It’s been my pleasure and honor to know them and assist their work in whatever ways I can.

Small world, huh? :)

That's amazing, Alex

Jeff Emanuel (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:50PM EST (link)

Just amazing. I’d love to meet them someday myself.

Outstanding flier, by the way. Great work.

JE

I didn't know when I moved to Holland

kowalski (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:58PM EST (link)

I didn’t know when I moved to Holland that they were based here, but I found out shortly after arriving that they live and train here. It’s a perfect place to do some of their training because of the terrain: a medium sized lake, lots of hills, challenging places to run, etc., etc.

I learned they were in town a few months after my father and I started our printing business. A while later I offered to print a flyer for one of their book signing/speaking engagements that was held at a church a few towns over. I donated the flyers, they liked them, and the rest is history.

They’re a constant source of inspiration and motivation to me, and I’m very proud and quite humbled to know them. You just don’t find many people like them in this world.

 

Send me an email

kowalski (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 9:23PM EST (link)

Have Erick or Neil give you my email address (if you don’t already know it) and I’ll put you in touch with them. They compete in events all around the country (and also the world) and I’ll bet they’d be happy to meet you. They’re really nice people.

Thanks for the kudos on the ad., but really these folks made it easy. My biggest problem was that there was so much to include. And when you’re doing something for people like this, the motivation just flows from the subject, really.

 
 

Oh and I'd like to add...

kowalski (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:51PM EST (link)

That while I share Jeff’s admiration for the Hoyts and I’m proud to work with them professionally, we’ve never discussed politics. It’s never been a subject that needed to come up, and I’d just like to say that my knowing them doesn’t imply that they share my political views.

I simply have never asked, because I work with them professionally; to the extent our relationship is personal I can say that I’ve not met finer people anywhere I’ve lived in this country.

If I found out tomorrow that they’re all lifelong Democrats it wouldn’t change my opinion of them one iota. These people are the real, Real Deal.

Politics is the last thing I talk about with many (if not most) people

Jeff Emanuel (Diary) Wednesday, December 10th at 8:55PM EST (link)

There’s often no need.

JE

 
 
 

Dang!

benning Thursday, December 11th at 1:49PM EST (link)

Just … y’know … dang!

“If I knew what I was doing would I be here?”